Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Life without procreating: child-less or child-free?

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In recent years, there's been a growing movement of individuals who proudly claim a lack of desire to procreate.

This lack of desire takes many forms. Some are merely ambivalent, and figure that in the face of ambivalence, it is best to err on the side of not creating unwanted life. Others believe that they would not be good with children, or simply wish not to have children.

Some are persuaded by moral arguments, which can also take a variety of forms. Arguments concerning the use of resources or the distribution of goods in the world may count in favor of those in particular places in society refraining from reproduction in specific circumstances, but do not offer a universal prescription. Alternatively, some writers, such as Seana Shiffrin and David Benatar, argue that in most imaginable cases, it is wrong to bring another person into existence. Some such beliefs may underlie the motives of those at the Voluntary Human Extinction Movement.

Regardless of our opinion on the more hard-line arguments, there appear to be some compelling reasons for many people in wealthy nations to reduce or forgo their procreative intentions. Most notably, additional individuals in wealthy nations increase the environmental burdens that these societies place on the planet. And our the resultant obligations we would have to our children greatly reduce out capacity to fulfill our obligations to those who already exist, especially the worst-off among us. It is thus better to never bring these countervailing obligations into existence, if we can.

Note, importantly, that the reasons we have not to bring and individual into existence do not equally count in favor or killing or neglecting already existing individuals, including those we might already have brought into existence.

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Those people who choose to live their lives without procreating often refer to themselves or their lifestyle as "child-free." However, as Christine Overall points out in Why Have Children?, this terminology carries a regrettable negative connotation.

Consider how the suffix -free is most often used. "Cancer-free." "Debt-free." "Drug-free." These terms carry with them the implication that what one is free from is some kind of burden or unwelcome element. Since "child" describes a class of persons, the implication that they are a burden to be free from is hardly appropriate. We would never say of a parent with children who do not have any disabilities that they are "disability-free."

In place of this term, Overall uses the term "childless." But unfortunately, this term also feels inadequate. The suffix -less carries the reverse implications of -free. It suggests that what is lacked is to be missed. Think of "homeless," "restless," "hopeless." In the case of childless, it implies that there is something missing from a life without children.

But this is what many of those who choose not to have children dispute. Life can be fulfilling, rewarding, and meaningful without choosing to reproduce and without raising children.

In light of this impasse, it's preferable to eschew both terms, and use the neutral phrase "without children" or "those without children." Unfortunately, like many an apt phrasing, it is clunky and unpoetic. But it is better to be seen as a poor writer than to imply objectionable attitudes.

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